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The SAD thing about my proclamation is that it is with a non-existent movie character. You see, that's the problem with the world and the media today; they create these perfect specimens and ideal situations that you can't help falling in love with their idea of love and how romance should be. (Please forget that I may or may not be working for the company that might be to blame for this... my department is actually the anti- romantic movie department in my opinion.) The reason we get to blame the media, again, is because they are the reason so many people out there just can't find love. Here's what some of my favorite romantic comedies have taught me:

Pride and Prejudice- depending on which of the Bennett sisters you most relate to, the person you love will realize how stupid he was to leave you and come back on bended knee; you think a guy is horrid and another is great only to find out it is visa a versa (this has, of course, played out in many female lives. Sadly the end never works out right); marry out of desperation; or run off with a guy and force him into marrying you.

Bridget Jones Diary- rich, attractive, successful men like awkward, chubby, unsuccessful women.

I Could Never be your Woman- cute young guys don't care how old you are and how crazy you might be, they'll like you anyway. And not only will they like you, they'll constantly fight for you to be with them and do sweet, fun, adorable things all the time to win you over.

She's the Man- Even when you lie to a guy he'll take you back and not only will he take you back, he'll seek you out to take you back.

The Holiday- Really do I need to? Men cry and want desperately to make it work, even if you live oceans away. OH and they are sweet and nice and giddy about you. OR they take you fun places, do anything to make you laugh, and help pull you together when you're falling apart. Not to mention ditch their hottie ex to make it to a special event for you.

The list goes on and on. The question is do these men really exist? If so where do they live and how do I get them my numbe? I submit that they do not. I think what happens here is that somewhere there is a room of women sitting around and dreaming up these perfect men and putting them in these movies. I haven't seen any guy that comes close to perfection like these guys do in these movies. For example, in the movie tonight when they're apart he silly strings a heart on her door, why because earlier they had a silly string moment. I have dated a lot and I can say I have never had anything that thoughtful and cute happen for me. The most sweeping romantic gesture I've ever experienced was when a guy I was dating wanted to dance to the end credit of a movie we were watching on my couch... cute? Yes. Original and thoughtful? Not really.

So my theory is this, these men are why it's so hard to date. You see this and you wonder... are there really guys like that out there for me? Will the music ever get louder and the boy start moving slower? Or am I forever going to be stuck in the land of awkward hugs and feeling lucky when he remembers it's my birthday?

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I think that there are guys out there like that. Who find it romantic to substitute a sprinkler spray for rain, in Southern California, when the girl he is seeing finds it romantic to kiss in the rain. I believe that there are men out there who find it very sweet and comforting to hold your hand while ice skating for the first time. I believe there are men out there who would solely like to get to know a woman before they run off to the bedroom. I am sure there are men who still believe that their mama's opinion matters. There are men that you seek, but the harsh and brash truth I'd that they have been damaged. Damaged by women who enjoy the chase more than the feelings of when your heart commits to love. Damaged by a woman who will want want want and not even dare to give. Even a little. Damaged by women who seem to want to be treated like a slut, whore, piece of trash that can be used and thrown away when their "time" is up. And I'll be honest with you, those are the very reasons that the "good guy" has become an introvert or has changed into the egotistical, moniachal, self absorbed, braisin prick that so luckily "gets the girl."

So I submit to you. Look for this man. And when you find him set aside any "games" and make a honest effort to fall in love with his heart and not his appearance or wallet.

-charles
December 6, 2008 at 1:10 AM
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